L.I.S.T.E.N.—L is for Luminaries

“You need to be heard and valued as much as anyone else needs to be heard and valued.” —Listening 2by2: A Paradigm Shift for Leaders (That’s When the Magic Happens!) Every week, for the next six weeks, we are sharing one of Someone To Tell It To’s values, one for each letter in the acronym…
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What Your Employees Might be Saying (Without Actually Saying It)–Are You Listening?

In the poignant yet lighthearted 1987 Academy Award-winning movie Moonstruck, an iconic scene emerged when on the morning after a spontaneous and unexpected night together, the character played by Nicholas Cage tells the character played by Oscar-winner Cher, that he is madly in love with her. Her response is to slap him—twice—and tell him to…
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These Last Two Years

I feel like I am not caring for Matthew well (because I am trying to work at home) and I feel like I am not doing my job well (because of all the time Matthew’s care requires). It is exhausting and I fear I may end up in the hospital like Matthew’s Direct Service Provider,…
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Edith Cumbo

Hidden Stories

On this last day of Women’s History Month, we are sharing this personal entry by one of our team members listening trainer and compassionate listener Elizabeth Givler.  Elizabeth loves history and researching the stories behind other’s lives.  She recently toured the historical sites of Williamsburg, Virginia with her teenage daughter.  What follows are Elizabeth’s thoughts…
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No More Killing Fields

This post was updated on March 18, 2022 Serene and heartbreaking. Sacred and horrific. The beautiful forest setting held a chilling secret. After the fall of the Berlin Wall and the opening of the Iron Curtain, Ukrainians learned a long-held evil truth. Outside of the capital city of Kyiv, the quiet woods held thousands of…
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An Unrecognized Voice

Thirty years ago, over the course of several years, I was invited by the local American Legion to judge high school students giving orations they had written about the U.S. constitution. Each time, the topic was different; the constitutional questions highlighted were not the same. Elections. Free speech. Rights of citizens. I enjoyed the arguments…
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An Olympian Feat

In the middle of this fortnight of the 2022 Winter Olympics, we’ve been reading and hearing about a distinctive shift in attitudes and reactions to and by the athletes, related to their mental and emotional health. Recent commentaries and articles attribute this shift to when Simone Biles, arguably the world’s best gymnast, dropped out of…
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That’s When the Magic Happens

If you’ve ever been to a magic show or seen one on Netflix, the best magicians create an environment where the impossible seems, well, possible. Whether it’s horizontal levitation, walking on water, throwing a card through a glass window, passing a guillotine blade through someone’s neck, cutting someone in half with a saw, or the…
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Guys, We Can Do Better | Overcoming (Toxic) Masculinity in the Workplace

I recently made a post on my LinkedIn page, an online space specifically designed to help us with virtual networking and career development.  In the past two years, I’ve tried to up my LinkedIn game, which is still well-below par, but I have noticed some common trends.  One of the most common I’ve noticed seemed…
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Why Listening is Not a “Soft Skill”

“So, you just listen?” When we heard that question several years ago from a consultant, our hearts sank. We’ve heard it before and we’ll hear it again. It’s frustrating every time. However, we realize that those of us striving to model great listening skills in our work, our personal lives, and our communities are facing…
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