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Loving Boldly Heals Our Lives

“We love what you are doing”, they wrote to us when they sent their check.  “Your message needs to spread across our community like wildfire … Keep fighting the good fight.  We stand beside you in awe because of your bravery …  Love boldly.” When we opened the mail at our office that day five…
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Wintering

We had to relisten to several parts of the conversation many times. It was so rich, so full of nuance, and contained so much wisdom. We knew we had to write about it before winter was over here in Pennsylvania, where we live. This rich conversation appeared on the On Being podcast hosted by Krista…
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The Light that is Hope in Grief

The Light that is Hope. The Light that is Healing. The Light that is Love.

We all want and need to be heard, to know that others listen and care. We crave intimacy. We are in a constant search for validation and for our voices to find resonance with the lives of others. Those words are in our first book, Someone To Tell It to: Sharing Life’s Journey. We wrote…
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Tom's bookshelf

The Dreaded Bad Day

You can be helped to look at the world and see a different perspective.  Where some people see a half-empty cup, you can see it as half-full.  Perhaps people will be moved to see that there are very, very, very many people in the world today who will not have had the kind of breakfast…
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Inherent Worth

Inherent Worth

Earlier this week, we had a deep conversation with one of our closest and dearest friends, the author Tim Madigan, who lives in Fort Worth, Texas. Tim wrote the first book we read together: I’m Proud of You: My Friendship with Fred Rogers. It spoke to us intimately and revealed many parallels to our relationships…
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The Power of One Word

The Power of One Word

  “Instead of creating endless goals and resolutions, choose One Word to be your driving force for the year. No goals. No wish lists. Just One Word. One Word creates clarity, power, passion, and life-change. The simple power of One Word is that it impacts all six dimensions of your life – mental, physical, emotional,…
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Michael and Matthew

Everyone Needs Someone To Tell It To: Michael’s Story

She wanted to know about grief. Did I feel grief about my son? About his limitations? About the things he wouldn’t do, who he would never be? About the limitations his care places on Kathy and me and his brothers? It was late into our 90-minute conversation when she asked me about grief. There was…
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Someone To Tell It To

Everyone Needs Someone To Tell It To: Tom’s Story

I donated blood the other day. It’s something I try to do every six weeks or so. The need for blood continues to be so great and it is one small, tangible way I can give back to others — when so much of our mission is intangible in nature. Two different technicians facilitated the…
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Jamia Wilson

Courage

It’s what Jamia Wilson, the keynote speaker at our 2020 Annual Gathering and newly-appointed Editor and Senior Vice President at Random House, wishes for the world to have as we face the many challenges of this present age: A global pandemic, a widespread economic slowdown, racial tensions and reckonings, and the aftermath of a very…
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Michael and Tom - Grief during COVID

In The Midst of Life

We hadn’t seen each other in over five months, since COVID-19 required us to distance physically. It was by the far the longest stretch we have gone in our time as the deepest of friends and colleagues. We’ve written extensively about our friendship together and the intimacy, authenticity, and vulnerability we have always personified. Our…
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