Tag: listening

Resisting the pull to rescue

We are thrilled to share this guest post from our friend Tamsin Hartley, who is doing incredible work in the UK through The Listening Space. Thank you, Tamsin! Most of us have a natural desire to help others. Seeing someone in distress makes us feel uncomfortable. It triggers our “righting reflex,” that innate desire to…
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The Old Man and The Sea

This blog post is a free chapter from our latest book, Someone To Tell It To: Moved With Compassion. If you’d like to read more stories like this one, you can purchase the entire book here. “Pain has a way of clipping our wings and keeping us f
rom being able to fly… and if left…
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What listening can do for your business

Post by Abby Turner, Chief Listening Officer I cowered in the corner of the modern looking office of the head of the college music department. There were two walls of windows separating us from the hallway. Any other students or professors walking by could easily see that I was sobbing. “It’s your lucky day, Abby.…
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The Presence of Listening

A guest post by Victoria Houser, PhD student at Clemson University. Like most people, I tend to think of myself as a rather well-rounded listener—supportive, engaging, silent when necessary. In fact, I’m not sure I’ve met anyone who openly acknowledges that they are terrible at listening. We recognize listening as a powerful trait, one that…
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Just Wanting To Be Heard

Before we get started, let’s play a quick game of compare and contrast: Think about the life you thought you were going to have -the one you envisioned when you were a kid, a college student, a newlywed, or a first-time parent. Now think about the life you do have. Chances are good that the…
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What is Most Private is Most Communal

  Tom   A cool breeze puffs its way across my face.   The widow in our bedroom, an all but glorified piece of plastic wrap, makes me one with creation, whether I wish to be in this way or not. Like the two night owls on the mountainside at the end of our block, I’m…
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Are you #Woke?

To be aware.   That’s what it means to be “woke”.   Increasingly, we’ve been hearing this word used as a byword for social awareness, primarily about racism and injustice. But it can be used for so much more.   There’s a lot of injustice in this world. And yes, a lot of racism. Accompanying…
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A Legacy of Listening, Authenticity, (and Friendship) …

“In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.” Fred Rogers   When Someone To Tell It To was started, we (co-founders Michael Gingerich and Tom Kaden) had…
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Did Anyone Care that He Was Alone?

Three years ago, a civic leader here in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, told us that she believed if more people had “someone to tell it to” in their lives, very possibly there would be fewer acts of violence, fewer incidents of abuse, and fewer mass shootings across our land. Three years later, we are utterly saddened and…
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Everyone is “Someone”

We’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out what to call the people we listen to. Are they clients? Friends? Storytellers? Nothing quite fit. We wanted a name that represented the type of relationship we try to build and the way we value those we listen to, but we struggled to find a…
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