Tag: listening

The Presence of Listening

A guest post by Victoria Houser, PhD student at Clemson University. Like most people, I tend to think of myself as a rather well-rounded listener—supportive, engaging, silent when necessary. In fact, I’m not sure I’ve met anyone who openly acknowledges that they are terrible at listening. We recognize listening as a powerful trait, one that…
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Just Wanting To Be Heard

Before we get started, let’s play a quick game of compare and contrast: Think about the life you thought you were going to have -the one you envisioned when you were a kid, a college student, a newlywed, or a first-time parent. Now think about the life you do have. Chances are good that the…
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What is Most Private is Most Communal

  Tom   A cool breeze puffs its way across my face.   The widow in our bedroom, an all but glorified piece of plastic wrap, makes me one with creation, whether I wish to be in this way or not. Like the two night owls on the mountainside at the end of our block, I’m…
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Are you #Woke?

To be aware.   That’s what it means to be “woke”.   Increasingly, we’ve been hearing this word used as a byword for social awareness, primarily about racism and injustice. But it can be used for so much more.   There’s a lot of injustice in this world. And yes, a lot of racism. Accompanying…
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A Legacy of Listening, Authenticity, (and Friendship) …

“In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.” Fred Rogers   When Someone To Tell It To was started, we (co-founders Michael Gingerich and Tom Kaden) had…
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Did Anyone Care that He Was Alone?

Three years ago, a civic leader here in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, told us that she believed if more people had “someone to tell it to” in their lives, very possibly there would be fewer acts of violence, fewer incidents of abuse, and fewer mass shootings across our land. Three years later, we are utterly saddened and…
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Everyone is “Someone”

We’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out what to call the people we listen to. Are they clients? Friends? Storytellers? Nothing quite fit. We wanted a name that represented the type of relationship we try to build and the way we value those we listen to, but we struggled to find a…
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This Valentine’s Day give Someone the gift of being seen, heard & known

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we wanted to share a story from our latest book about the transformational power of loving relationships. These meaningful connections remind us that what we do is never “just listening.” When we listen with compassion, we give someone a chance to feel seen, known, and heard—maybe for the…
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We are thrilled to introduce you to the newest member of our team

Abby will be serving as the Chief Listening Officer at Someone To Tell It To. She will be primarily focused on setting up a training program to deepen a global movement of compassionate listening.   Abby has experienced the power of listening in her own life and has a beautiful story of how she came…
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Giving Tuesday

On January 4th my father was born to another world. He was taken to heaven. Deep sadness and emotional distress penetrated my heart. I experienced an unbearable pain in my soul… I wished I was only 2 years old when he died. At least, I would not have known the beauty of life or the…
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