Tag: grief

Never Forget

We Pause…to Listen

The world’s media today is filled with stories remembering the horrific events of September 11, 2001. As we write this message, television screens are broadcasting simultaneous services of commemoration about what happened that day in New York City, Washington, D.C., and Shanksville, Pennsylvania. 2,977 people died — tragically, violently, needlessly. The world changed dramatically that…
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The Unknowability of Other People’s Pain

Two different families in the same small town experienced tragic and shocking deaths by suicide of a family member they dearly loved, within a short time from one another. Both deaths made headlines in the local papers, causing their families to suffer more pain beyond the losses due to the salacious nature of the stories…
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Loving Boldly Heals Our Lives

“We love what you are doing”, they wrote to us when they sent their check.  “Your message needs to spread across our community like wildfire … Keep fighting the good fight.  We stand beside you in awe because of your bravery …  Love boldly.” When we opened the mail at our office that day five…
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Wintering

We had to relisten to several parts of the conversation many times. It was so rich, so full of nuance, and contained so much wisdom. We knew we had to write about it before winter was over here in Pennsylvania, where we live. This rich conversation appeared on the On Being podcast hosted by Krista…
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Giving Tuesday

On January 4th my father was born to another world. He was taken to heaven. Deep sadness and emotional distress penetrated my heart. I experienced an unbearable pain in my soul… I wished I was only 2 years old when he died. At least, I would not have known the beauty of life or the…
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New Suits, Bow Ties and “Standing With” Our Friends

“Right after the new year began, my wife of 14 years shared that she wasn’t sure if she wanted to continue with our marriage. She informed me that she “needed space” to sort through her feelings. We had just experienced a season of many difficulties: my battle with cancer in 2011; my mom’s recent battle…
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Holding On To The Things You Love

“Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love.” ~Kevin Arnold “Only a full-time caregiver would understand; when you go from caring for someone every day for many years, giving so much of yourself, it leaves you with an empty feeling, but also a feeling of satisfaction for having given your all.”…
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I Helped Her Cry

No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another. ~Charles Dickens Sixty tea light candles had been caringly placed in the front of the sanctuary for the annual non-denominational “Blue Christmas Service”. Each unlit candle represented a person loved, one who was absent, one who could no longer be present this…
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Remember

“To love another person is to see the face of God.” Victor Hugo (Les Miserables) “Love is God, and to die means that I, a particle of love, shall return to the general and eternal source.” Leo Tolstoy “In my deepest wound I saw your glory, and it dazzled me.” Augustine of Hippo   We…
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Chapters (Tom)

“A father is a man who expects his son to be as good a man as he meant to be.” Frank A. Clark   The day was “supposed” to be one of the most meaningful days of my life—and it was—but for very different reasons than I expected. June 3, 2006. Our wedding day. It…
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