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Watershed Moments

To love someone is to reveal to them their capacities for life, the light that is shining in them.~Jean Vanier During our many years counseling, Michael and Tom have each kept a special file marked ‘Encouragements’. In those special files, we have notes of gratitude, letters of appreciation, and messages about how we changed someone’s…
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Wounds

Getting in touch with one’s soul means going through one’s own struggle and despair and also realizing that it is working through those wounds that helps you unite with other people.Linda Leonard, Ph.D. Throughout our lives there are seasons that often seem not only dark but painful. Maybe it was because of a broken relationship.…
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Puzzle Pieces

If we could see that everything, even tragedy, is a gift in disguise, we would then find the best way to nourish the soul.Elisabeth Kubler-Ross This past Christmas Tom received a puzzle of 1,000 pieces. He hasn’t put a puzzle together in a very long time. When he looks at all the pieces jumbled and…
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Eeyore

“Good morning, Pooh Bear,” said Eeyore gloomily. “If it is a good morning,” he said. “Which I doubt,” said he. “Why, what’s the matter?” “Nothing, Pooh Bear, nothing. We can’t all, and some of us don’t. That’s all there is to it.” “Can’t all what?” said Pooh, rubbing his nose. “Gaiety. Song-and-dance. Here we go…
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Through the Pain

In my own worst seasons I’ve come back from the colorless world of despair by forcing myself to look hard, for a long time, at a single glorious thing: a flame of a red geranium outside my bedroom window. And then another: my daughter in a yellow dress. And another: the perfect outline of a…
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Becoming Our Authentic Selves

Being authentic is the ability to be true to oneself. Living an authentic life requires the ability to be true to our own wants, needs and desires and not live our lives by the opinion of others. Being authentic is the ability to make self-honoring choices and stand firmly in who we are in our…
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Coming Alive

Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.Howard Thurman, philosopher, theologian, educator, author We read a story the other day of a writer and his wife, in their mid 30’s, with four children under the age…
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Remove the Mask

“Safe is a place where you can get out the worst about you and they don’t run you off, talk you down, or head for the hills. It’s having someone to stand with when you start to face the shameful stuff. It’s where you can be a jerk and still have a place at the…
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Choosing to be Grateful

We were made to enjoy music, to enjoy beautiful sunsets, to enjoy looking at the billows of the sea and to be thrilled with a rose that is bedecked with dew…human beings are actually created for the transcendent, for the sublime, for the beautiful, for the truthful…and all of us are given the task of…
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Compassion

Compassion asks us to go where it hurts, to enter into places of pain, to share in brokenness, fear, confusion, and anguish. Compassion challenges us to cry out loud with those in misery, to mourn with those who are lonely, to weep with those in tears. Compassion requires us to be weak, vulnerable with the…
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