Tag Archive: listening

New Suits, Bow Ties and “Standing With” Our Friends

“Right after the new year began, my wife of 14 years shared that she wasn’t sure if she wanted to continue with our marriage. She informed me that she “needed space” to sort through her feelings. We had just experienced a season of many difficulties: my battle with cancer in 2011; my mom’s recent battle […]

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Discovering Self-Worth

Five years ago, when Someone To Tell It To had just been created, we wrote the blog below, about the actress Viola Davis and her insights into achieving a healthy level of self-worth. Ms. Davis has been in the news recently, most notably for winning an Academy Award for her role as a long-suffering wife […]

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Holding On To The Things You Love

“Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love.” ~Kevin Arnold “Only a full-time caregiver would understand; when you go from caring for someone every day for many years, giving so much of yourself, it leaves you with an empty feeling, but also a feeling of satisfaction for having given your all.” […]

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In The Fullness of Time- A Reflection in this Holiday Season

As is our tradition, each year on December 23, we (Tom and Michael, the co-founders of Someone To Tell It To), go to the Iberian Lounge at the Hotel Hershey, in Hershey, Pennsylvania, to reflect on the year that is just ending. We celebrate the incredibly good moments and achievements and are open about the […]

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When We Are Listened To

The late philosopher and theologian Paul Tillich has said, “The first duty of love is to listen”. Psychologists say that deep listening is indistinguishable from love. We believe deeply that our human need to be listened to is critical and that it is a great act of love when we really listen to one another. […]

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We live in a broken world

Listening is the oldest and perhaps the most powerful took of healing.  It is often through the quality of our listening and not the wisdom of our words that we are able to effect the most profound changes in the people around us.  When we listen, we offer with our attention an opportunity for wholeness.  Our […]

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Surprised By Listening

“The first duty of love is to listen.” ~Paul Tillich The summer between my freshman and sophomore years of college I needed a job to help pay my way through school. A dad of a very close friend of mine offered me a position as a security guard at a local hospital in New Jersey—after […]

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Cure Without Care

“Our tendency is to run away from the painful realities or to try to change them as soon as possible. But cure without care makes us into rulers, controllers, manipulators, and prevents a real community from taking shape. Cure without care makes us preoccupied with quick changes, impatient and unwilling to share each other’s burden. […]

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The Party Wouldn’t be a Party Without You

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” —Dr. Seuss   “So, you…just listen?” We certainly didn’t expect the response we received […]

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Eyes

“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” –Khalil Gibran “Pain and suffering have come into your life, but remember pain, sorrow, suffering are but the kiss of Jesus—a sign that you have come so close to Him that He can kiss you.” -Mother Teresa This next […]

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