Tag Archive: grief

New Suits, Bow Ties and “Standing With” Our Friends

“Right after the new year began, my wife of 14 years shared that she wasn’t sure if she wanted to continue with our marriage. She informed me that she “needed space” to sort through her feelings. We had just experienced a season of many difficulties: my battle with cancer in 2011; my mom’s recent battle […]

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Holding On To The Things You Love

“Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love.” ~Kevin Arnold “Only a full-time caregiver would understand; when you go from caring for someone every day for many years, giving so much of yourself, it leaves you with an empty feeling, but also a feeling of satisfaction for having given your all.” […]

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I Helped Her Cry

No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another. ~Charles Dickens Sixty tea light candles had been caringly placed in the front of the sanctuary for the annual non-denominational “Blue Christmas Service”. Each unlit candle represented a person loved, one who was absent, one who could no longer be present this […]

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Remember

“To love another person is to see the face of God.” Victor Hugo (Les Miserables) “Love is God, and to die means that I, a particle of love, shall return to the general and eternal source.” Leo Tolstoy “In my deepest wound I saw your glory, and it dazzled me.” Augustine of Hippo   We […]

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Chapters (Tom)

“A father is a man who expects his son to be as good a man as he meant to be.” Frank A. Clark   The day was “supposed” to be one of the most meaningful days of my life—and it was—but for very different reasons than I expected. June 3, 2006. Our wedding day. It […]

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It’s About Love

Sadly, last Sunday, breaking news detailed deadly shootings at two Jewish Community Centers near Kansas City, Kansas.   Three people were killed.  Once again, the horror of human hate and its devastation intruded into all of our lives and reminded us of the evil that lurks within us and around us. Later that day and the […]

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Healing People

The most I can do for my friend is simply be his friend.      Henry David Thoreau A special friend of ours shared with us these thoughts below, written by Kenneth Haugk, PhD, clinical psychologist, pastor and author.  Dr. Haugk writes about “healing people”, what they are and how they respond to others’ grief and […]

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I Did What I Had To Do

Yes there were times I’m sure you knew When I bit off more than I could chew But through it all when there was doubt I ate it up and spit it out, I faced it all And I stood tall and did it my way I’ve loved, I’ve laughed and cried I’ve had my […]

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Our Coping Tools

It’s funny: I always imagined when I was a kid that adults had some kind of inner toolbox full of shiny tools: the saw of discernment, the hammer of wisdom, the sandpaper of patience. But then when I grew up I found that life handed you these rusty bent old tools – friendships, prayer, conscience, […]

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Helping Brings Healing

As we work to create life for others we naturally light our own way.      Mary Anne Radmacher   An NPR news story today that focused on how people cope with loss and grief caught our attention.  The central focus of the piece was that … research suggests one of the best ways to heal […]

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