Tag Archive: compassionate presence

Did Anyone Care that He Was Alone?

Three years ago, a civic leader here in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, told us that she believed if more people had “someone to tell it to” in their lives, very possibly there would be fewer acts of violence, fewer incidents of abuse, and fewer mass shootings across our land. Three years later, we are utterly saddened and […]

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This Valentine’s Day give Someone the gift of being seen, heard & known

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we wanted to share a story from our latest book about the transformational power of loving relationships. These meaningful connections remind us that what we do is never “just listening.” When we listen with compassion, we give someone a chance to feel seen, known, and heard—maybe for the […]

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What is a Chief Listening Officer, anyway?

There’s a question that’s been brewing ever since we introduced Abby Turner as our Chief Listening Officer last week. What is a Chief Listening Officer, anyway? Ironically, the U.K. appointed their own Chief Listening Officer last week… they just gave the position a slightly different name: Minister for Loneliness. “We know that there is a […]

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We are thrilled to introduce you to the newest member of our team

Abby will be serving as the Chief Listening Officer at Someone To Tell It To. She will be primarily focused on setting up a training program to deepen a global movement of compassionate listening.   Abby has experienced the power of listening in her own life and has a beautiful story of how she came […]

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Giving Tuesday

On January 4th my father was born to another world. He was taken to heaven. Deep sadness and emotional distress penetrated my heart. I experienced an unbearable pain in my soul… I wished I was only 2 years old when he died. At least, I would not have known the beauty of life or the […]

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New Suits, Bow Ties and “Standing With” Our Friends

“Right after the new year began, my wife of 14 years shared that she wasn’t sure if she wanted to continue with our marriage. She informed me that she “needed space” to sort through her feelings. We had just experienced a season of many difficulties: my battle with cancer in 2011; my mom’s recent battle […]

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Discovering Self-Worth

Five years ago, when Someone To Tell It To had just been created, we wrote the blog below, about the actress Viola Davis and her insights into achieving a healthy level of self-worth. Ms. Davis has been in the news recently, most notably for winning an Academy Award for her role as a long-suffering wife […]

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Holding On To The Things You Love

“Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love.” ~Kevin Arnold “Only a full-time caregiver would understand; when you go from caring for someone every day for many years, giving so much of yourself, it leaves you with an empty feeling, but also a feeling of satisfaction for having given your all.” […]

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In The Fullness of Time- A Reflection in this Holiday Season

As is our tradition, each year on December 23, we (Tom and Michael, the co-founders of Someone To Tell It To), go to the Iberian Lounge at the Hotel Hershey, in Hershey, Pennsylvania, to reflect on the year that is just ending. We celebrate the incredibly good moments and achievements and are open about the […]

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When We Are Listened To

The late philosopher and theologian Paul Tillich has said, “The first duty of love is to listen”. Psychologists say that deep listening is indistinguishable from love. We believe deeply that our human need to be listened to is critical and that it is a great act of love when we really listen to one another. […]

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