Tag Archive: compassionate presence

Giving Tuesday

On January 4th my father was born to another world. He was taken to heaven. Deep sadness and emotional distress penetrated my heart. I experienced an unbearable pain in my soul… I wished I was only 2 years old when he died. At least, I would not have known the beauty of life or the […]

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New Suits, Bow Ties and “Standing With” Our Friends

“Right after the new year began, my wife of 14 years shared that she wasn’t sure if she wanted to continue with our marriage. She informed me that she “needed space” to sort through her feelings. We had just experienced a season of many difficulties: my battle with cancer in 2011; my mom’s recent battle […]

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Discovering Self-Worth

Five years ago, when Someone To Tell It To had just been created, we wrote the blog below, about the actress Viola Davis and her insights into achieving a healthy level of self-worth. Ms. Davis has been in the news recently, most notably for winning an Academy Award for her role as a long-suffering wife […]

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Holding On To The Things You Love

“Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love.” ~Kevin Arnold “Only a full-time caregiver would understand; when you go from caring for someone every day for many years, giving so much of yourself, it leaves you with an empty feeling, but also a feeling of satisfaction for having given your all.” […]

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In The Fullness of Time- A Reflection in this Holiday Season

As is our tradition, each year on December 23, we (Tom and Michael, the co-founders of Someone To Tell It To), go to the Iberian Lounge at the Hotel Hershey, in Hershey, Pennsylvania, to reflect on the year that is just ending. We celebrate the incredibly good moments and achievements and are open about the […]

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When We Are Listened To

The late philosopher and theologian Paul Tillich has said, “The first duty of love is to listen”. Psychologists say that deep listening is indistinguishable from love. We believe deeply that our human need to be listened to is critical and that it is a great act of love when we really listen to one another. […]

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I Helped Her Cry

No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another. ~Charles Dickens Sixty tea light candles had been caringly placed in the front of the sanctuary for the annual non-denominational “Blue Christmas Service”. Each unlit candle represented a person loved, one who was absent, one who could no longer be present this […]

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We live in a broken world

Listening is the oldest and perhaps the most powerful took of healing.  It is often through the quality of our listening and not the wisdom of our words that we are able to effect the most profound changes in the people around us.  When we listen, we offer with our attention an opportunity for wholeness.  Our […]

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We Are ALL In This Together

“Whatever happens to me in life, I must believe that somewhere, in the mess or madness of it all, there is a sacred potential–a possibility for wondrous redemption in the embracing of all that is.” ~Edwina Gateley “Compassion is the wish for another being to be free from suffering.” ~The Dalai Lama St. Paul’s (Episcopal) […]

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Surprised By Listening

“The first duty of love is to listen.” ~Paul Tillich The summer between my freshman and sophomore years of college I needed a job to help pay my way through school. A dad of a very close friend of mine offered me a position as a security guard at a local hospital in New Jersey—after […]

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